He’s been a long time coming and, according to reports, has wanted to be “World King” since the age of seven. Now may be a good time to see if we can work out a little bit more about our new leader.
Boris is the oldest of four “full” siblings including Rachel, Leo and Jo. We’re told the family is intensely competitive and we know a reasonable amount about all of them, except for Leo, who seems to keep a less public profile. The family ties with patriarch Stanley, himself once an aspiring politician, remain strong. Stanley, talking immediately after his son’s election, made a laughing remark about the leadership skipping a generation. One wonders how much of a familial trait is being expressed here …
Until just a few days ago, we knew of Boris as a very clever man – a scholarship to Eton and then to Balliol College, Oxford – twice mayor of London, sometime Latin-speaker and MP for Uxbridge. He’s clearly charming and well-liked by those who know him (although he’s by no means popular with everyone) and is self-deprecating with his humour, which is also a good way of disguising his intellect.
However, nobody who’s got where he has – even with connections – can have arrived there by chance. He has worked for it, no matter how effortless he may have made it seem.
And this where the contentious bit comes in; I’d suggest somewhere in his early years, after moving from a happy home life to boarding school, the boy who started out Alexander Boris de Pfeffel Johnson developed a “false self” persona - the one he's shown us up until now.
The false self theory is connected with early life experiences and secure attachment. Put simply, the idea is that, if you have a good-enough start in life and a secure primary care giver, then you can generally deal with what life throws you. And, when life becomes difficult (as it inevitably will), you have someone alongside you to help you work out how to manage and develop in a healthy and beneficial way.
The Johnson family moved around often in his early years, including spells outside the UK but, when mother Charlotte became ill (his parents subsequently divorced), Boris and his siblings were sent away to boarding school, first at a prep school and then on to Eton.
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I’d suggest life might have been a little hard for Boris as a scholar at Eton.
He came from a very close and intellectually driven family, was well travelled – he had been at school in Brussels and spoke fluent French – and was probably a great deal more sophisticated than his schoolmates. And, even if he was a great sportsman (those rugby shoulders), upper-crust English families at that time (we’re talking 1970s remember) tended to appreciate sporting prowess above academic genius. I doubt there is any other country in the world that describes someone as: “Too clever by half.” England did.
Also, the British upper-class system is not really designed for those who aren’t immediately part of the group, as Boris wasn’t. His ancestry would have been pretty different from most of his fellow schoolmates (a Turkish great-grandfather as well a host of other foreign connections from both sides) as would his cleverness. We’re all excited by diversity nowadays but we were a much more secular society then.
So, I would argue, Boris had to contend with his removal from a very close and supportive family environment to a much less sophisticated world, coping with the complications of his mother’s illness and his parents’ subsequent divorce. He had to put on a brave face and he did and that is the Boris that we feel we have come to know.
The false self persona comes about in part because of the need to fit in and also with that often comes a desire to be liked. That, too, fits Boris’ profile. When he heard he was being interviewed by one journalist for nine of the 10 hustings, he was horrified, saying: “But he doesn’t like me!”
So how did a man who appears to need to be liked make the momentous decision to fall out with many of his friends – including fellow old Etonian David Cameron – and join the Vote Leave Brexit campaign? That seems to go entirely against the grain.
Critics argue it was a cynical ploy and Boris saw it as his one chance to gain the highest office in the land. However, his supporters argue that his decision could have cost him his political career. They say his decision was based on deeply held beliefs, not just cynical opportunism.
We know Boris Johnson wrote two articles, one in favour of remaining in the EU and one against. He told journalists (charmingly, of course) it was a way of focusing his own mind on what he believed to be best for Britain. The one he published was the one in favour of Brexit.
Certainly, the new PM is now showing us a different side to the one to which we’re used. His “take no prisoners” change of ministers within a day of coming to power indicates a determined will lurking within that jovial exterior. And, making his first speech as PM outside No 10 Downing Street, I didn’t hear him use one Latin phrase. He spoke clearly, sharply and fluently and finished his sentences without the awkward hesitation we often hear. This was a different man from the playful Boris to whom we’re used.
Could it be that this fun-packed, devil-may-care, witty, erudite Briton who makes us smile when we hear his name, is not all there is to Boris. Could it be that what began as a disguise and a reaction to a traumatic change in his early life is indeed a cover?
For what or for whom I don’t know. But we will find out.
Top pic: Mayor Boris Johnson in 2012 at the opening of the London Olympics
NB: This is my entirely personal view, written wearing the analytical hat of a journalist. I’m aware that, as a qualified counsellor, I have no business writing about somebody of whom I have no personal experience. However – and that’s an interesting point for me – I feel I know him, as many of us do, so I’ve decided to take a punt and write about what I see. In my defence, I’d argue Mr Johnson is a politician and we have a right to consider what makes him tick.